tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3137584603391887934.post743841444981382606..comments2023-04-13T06:06:33.625-07:00Comments on Yeah. Good Times.: Fuck autism & other things that can fuck off, tooUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3137584603391887934.post-59787943014969957942011-10-14T22:38:11.846-07:002011-10-14T22:38:11.846-07:00God this breaks my heart. I know I'm a year l...God this breaks my heart. I know I'm a year late on this one but I just have to comment.<br /><br />First, in response to "that sounds just like my kid": I am the lucky recipient of the grown-up version: "that sounds just like me".<br /><br />And every time I hear it I smile politely and fight the urge to curl into a ball. No, it's NOT just like you. If it was just like you you'd be autistic too. You'd be years behind your peers too. You'd be worried about your future too.<br /><br />But I don't say those things because I know they're trying to be supportive and inclusive. They're not *trying* to be dismissive, but they're being dismissive nonetheless. (If anyone said something like "oh everyone's like that" and I knew they weren't coming from a positive place with it, I'd probably rethink my polite smile, but I don't think I'd be able to tackle the issue in the moment, so I'm sure I'd walk away feeling horrible.)<br /><br />I actually just encountered this today (complete with "I think everyone's on the spectrum") and am trying to script out how to explain how it comes across the next time I see this person. She's nice and understanding with a genuine interest (possibly career-wise even), so I feel like I can probably let her know, but I absolutely need to plan it out.<br /><br />Second, in response to what you said about Child 1 not being *able* to tell you what was going on: I'm so happy you realize that that's the situation. Nobody realized that with me, and it sucked. (So now I think you're even more awesome and the creepy stranger facebook love is only going to increase.) I've come so far in only the last year in this regard, and I am so, so happy about that. I'm by no means completely there yet, but there has been so much progress. It is so intensely frustrating to not be there at all though, and you just seem to get that, so thank you.<br /><br />Thirdly, in response to the situation with school, something similar happened with me in 7th grade and I still don't know how to explain it. I went the first day (new school), and my dad picked me up and asked me how it went. With a smile on my face I told him "I hate it." I was fighting the smile though - I knew it didn't match, but I couldn't help it. It was just coming out that way. And then for the next three days, I cried every morning and refused to go.<br /><br />Like I said, I still don't know quite what happened, but I remember that I *could not* go to school. Something was absolutely, positively preventing me from going and bringing me to tears over it. And I remember how horrible that felt. So even though this is a year late, please give your son a hug for me, because sometimes it's pretty cool being autistic, but sometimes it really sucks.<br /><br />-EmilyEmilyhttp://thoughtyautie.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3137584603391887934.post-16626434877960647072011-05-04T21:04:40.288-07:002011-05-04T21:04:40.288-07:00How the hell did I find your blog...I do not remem...How the hell did I find your blog...I do not remember. Anyways, I like it. I mentioned my other blog in some other post but I have another blog. I don't know if it is readable by the public or super private or what but here goes....http://disorderlywanderlist.blogspot.com I think we have some similar wacky...whatevers..sorroy..I am tired. But yeah check it out if it lets you :)3rseduc / handsinthesoilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03218555891546800241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3137584603391887934.post-73928769736354726332010-10-05T20:10:21.903-07:002010-10-05T20:10:21.903-07:00Thanks guys. He's not much of a drawer, Tina, ...Thanks guys. He's not much of a drawer, Tina, he still only does stick figures. But he seems better now, although I still have no idea what was going on :(jillsmohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14471645179097384631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3137584603391887934.post-80131032081711519882010-10-05T14:57:09.805-07:002010-10-05T14:57:09.805-07:00yep. It sucks sweaty donkey parts. *hugs*
Could Ch...yep. It sucks sweaty donkey parts. *hugs*<br />Could Child 2 draw you a picture of what's wrong? Just a thought...TMWHickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11099277984216556857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3137584603391887934.post-86192752197547565742010-10-05T12:11:50.343-07:002010-10-05T12:11:50.343-07:00It all sucks. Autism sucks. :( I'm sorry for...It all sucks. Autism sucks. :( I'm sorry for what's happening - and I love you. *hugs*Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06846719524123871614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3137584603391887934.post-42518849548972992282010-10-05T10:54:48.778-07:002010-10-05T10:54:48.778-07:00(Except the blogging while you reconcile a bank st...(Except the blogging while you reconcile a bank statement. That's actually pretty cool.)Niborhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01994736319536719155noreply@blogger.com