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Sunday, December 16, 2012

The Connecticut tragedy and autism

I sent this letter to every single person I could think of at our district, including the Superintendant and the School Board.  Feel free to grab it and use it as your own, although I did borrow some of the language from the Autism Discussion Page on Facebook.



Dear (school) community:

There has been much discussion online and in the news about the connection between the Connecticut school shooting and the fact that the shooter may have been diagnosed with autism. As our families and our community discusses this issue and tries to find a reason for this heartbreaking tragedy, I feel that it is very important to remember the following: There is no connection between planned, violent behavior and an autism spectrum diagnosis of any kind.

Autism is not a mental illness; it is a developmental disability. Many autistic people may have emotional regulation problems, which are impulsive expressions of frustration and anger, that are immediate and disorganized. They may lash out with threatening statements or behaviors, but these behaviors are impulsive reactions, they are not deliberate or organized plans. Once the situation has been diffused, the behaviors will stop. What happened in Connecticut required methodical planning of a deliberate and tremendously violent act; this is not typical behavior of an autistic person.

Right now we are all struggling to find a reason why this kind of atrocity would happen, and we can speculate about the mental state of the shooter; about gun control laws; about the current state of our country’s mental health system, or about whatever else that might help us make some sense out of this. Please know, and please tell your children, that even if the shooter was autistic, autism is not the explanation for this tragedy.

If anybody has any questions about autism, please do not hesitate to contact me.

Thank you very much for your time,

Jill
Mom to (Child 1) in 5th grade, with autism



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Yes! And borrowing...thanks.
Great letter! Thanks!
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Perfection. Sorry that there are so many uneducated fools in the world that require this letter.
Thanks for sharing this with the world! I have been trying to organize my thoughts on the subject into a coherant letter. You know one that sounds like it came from a rational person, not a overtly emotional Mothere of a kiddo with Asperegers. I will graciously borrow this to send to ur school district. Thanks again! :-)
Thank you. And I must borrow this letter for my fb page.
You are sooper sekrit double probation awesome. <3
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Yup. And sharing...
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Many Thanks! Will be borrowing...
YES!
Sharing
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Shared it with my Superintendent. Thanks, Smo!
Exactly.
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Yes. I groaned as soon as I saw the autism speculation begin in the media. And as I told someone on Twitter, even if it is revealed that the shooter had a mental illness and not autism, all everyone will remember is what they read those first few days.
Then why does this father (of a now-adult man diagnosed with Aspergers) keep calling it a "mental illness"?
Then why does this father (of a now-adult man diagnosed with Aspergers) keep calling it a "mental illness"?

The father insists his son shouldn't be in jail despite:
- sending tons of harassing/threatening emails to his ex-GF
- contacting her in violation of an order of protection
- spending a month in jail for doing so
- violating probation within hours of his release by calling/emailing/harnessing his ex-GF
- " mailing a stick figure drawing to an attorney , depicting the lawyer, a gun and RIP" leading the FBI to filing (and convicting) him on these charges

His father says the boy "threatens violence, but isn't violent". Suuuuuuuure.

My sympathies are with his ex-GF - not the guy or his wearing-blinders-but-loves-him dad.

On the positive side, it seems like law enforcement took appropriate action and no one was hurt.
http://www.dailyherald.com/article/20110925/news/...
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Well, Stan, it IS possible to have Asperger's AND a co-morbid mental illness. From the rest of it, it sounds like the father has a heavy case of something professionals and laypeople alike call DENIAL. Of course, I'm just going by your comment here. I honestly haven't read much about the father, but it wouldn't surprise me since I know a lot of parents who live in denial. If you're really about conspiracy theories, "Stan," why didn't you bring up the connection with the LIBOR scandal?
Stan: The phrase "mental illness" is often used as a short-hand way to refer collectively to conditions, disorders or dysfunctions of the brain. Autism is not a psychiatric disorder; it is a neurological disorder, and there is a profound difference in the way neurologic disorders manifest and are treated (or not). One of the reasons why people in the ASD community are troubled by the reporting regarding autism and Aspergers is the continued implication that people on the spectrum are prone to violence - particularly planned violence. That is not an accurate depiction, and it further marginalizes people who live on the spectrum - a result counterproductive to positive socialization and support.

I do not know the full medical or psychologic profile of the young man discussed in the article you attached, but it is clear to me that he has a psychiatric issue that is comorbid with his Aspergers diagnosis. That makes the attached article another unfortunate attack on the ASD community. You holding up this article as evidence in support of your argument that autistics are violent proves how this type of negative reporting is so harmful.

Lastly, I would ask you to withhold judgment against this young man's parents. As a parent of a child who is autistic and the daughter of a parent who is bipolar, I can say confidently that you do not know how challenging it is to obtain appropriate medical care, education or services in this country for any condition found in the DSM-IV. Sadly, one of the few places people can obtain some type of mental health care is in jail. What message do we send to the children of our society when that's the case? I assure you, it is not a positive one.

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I'm going to borrow it, thanks for sharing your true words...
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It's so important to draw the distinction here. Thank you for drawing attention to what could be a dangerous line of assumptions by the general populace regarding children and adults with autism.
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Really excellent post, you've said my own thoughts much better than I could have myself. Thank you for writing this and for encouraging others to share it too.
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Jill, did you email it, or mail it mail it?

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2 replies · active 640 weeks ago
I email emailed it
me too. Thanks for the template...
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notgonnatellunyah · 640 weeks ago

Posted it on my facebook page. Thank you
I shared on twitter and facebook and I emailed the letter to my school principal. Thanks for sharing with us Jill. We have to stick together and stop this ridiculous stigma of autism and this type of violence. Take care!
I'm glad you spoke up on this. It needed to be said. Too many people are looking to find easy answers, cast blame and isolate a reason.

This kind of tragey knows no reason.

Thank you for this.

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thanks for sharing.

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