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Sunday, June 5, 2011

The Dive Bar Welcomes: Carolyn

Today we have Carolyn who blogs at This Talk Ain't Cheap and can also be found on Twitter at @temysmom. Welcome Carolyn!!


We’ve lived in our house for 12 years. Our neighbors across the street lived in theirs for less than that. I’m still trying to figure them out.

Their youngest daughter is the same age as my youngest daughter. They are in the same class in school together. They see each other every day. They play together on the street. She lets her kids come over to my front yard but NEVER lets them come into my house. My kids go over to their front yard but she NEVER lets them come into her house. Weird! Bitch!

Today, it was the girl’s birthday party. My kid wasn’t invited. I don’t know why but I do know that when you have a little girl who is only 6 years old and she lives right across the street from you and plays with your daughter and is in your daughter’s class, YOU FRIGGIN’ INVITE HER TO THE PARTY!!!!!

These people NEVER talk to us unless they want something. By want I mean they want to find out information on other neighbors. Or teachers. Or parents. You know, they are the nosiest people I’ve ever met. The husband has never so much as waved to us. He never talks, never even looks our way. Rude bastard.

The woman used to peek over my front gate to see what we were building, when we were adding on to the house. Nosy bitch! We have the exact same model house. All she ever wants to know is what we are doing to fix it up. And then she copies me. We took a wall down, they took a wall down. We have a back porch, they put in a back porch. We have wood floors, they put in wood floors. Shit, she should be paying me for design ideas.

I swear, I wonder what the hell gets into some people. I’ve been nothing but nice. We wave and say Hi. Nothing in return! Her girls are cry-babies beyond belief. They cry at the drop of a hat. I wonder what is going on inside their house?

Another parent who works with me in the class sometimes has asked me about them. She thinks something is going on. Something serious. Like abuse or something. I’ve heard the husband yell at the wife about really stupid things. I think he keeps a tight reign on her. I just think it’s very strange how they are so nosy about everyone else but very private about themselves.

I’m pretty sure the woman has no self-esteem to speak of. She always looks like she’s afraid of something. Maybe her husband?

Regardless, she did something stupid today. She didn’t invite a 6 year old to a party and she made an enemy for life.

Okay, maybe I’m being melodramatic. But I’m pissed. Really pissed.



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We have neighbours sort of like that, except the opposite sort of. They moved into a totally redone house and they aren't abusive, they are *perfect* and their children do not make eye contact with us. They are pastors. They and their church are totally above us. They have parties all the time, their kids are my kids' ages and never once have they invited us over. OH but they have the money to raise to go on missions to everywhere under the sun in South America. I try not to think about people like this because the more I think about it, the more resentful I get of them and of my own children's situation in life. They didn't ask to be born autistic and have all these problems, and it seems even "God's people" don't want to try to help or understand.
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Happy Elf Mom · 721 weeks ago

OH, the other neighbour asked me when the baby was coming. I am not pregnant. Then she launched into how I waddle when I walk and I must carry all my weight in my gut, etc. I like my house... wish everyone else would move. :)
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How funny. I think the same thing all the time. I like my neighborhood, just wish I could hand-pick my neighbors.
Who would do that to a six year old? Seriously messed up. Invite their kid over and interrogate 'em.
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I'm so sorry. It does sound like something really "off" is happening there, which is why your kid isn't allowed to play inside the house (and she couldn't let her kid play inside yours either--it looks too one-sided, and she's probably afraid the kid's gonna spill the beans).

The party is weird though. Were other kids in the class invited? Or was it just extended family?
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There were other kids in the class invited. Not a lot, but a few that my daughter was friends with.
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Happy Elf Mom · 721 weeks ago

Oh, hadn't thought that the reason the kid can't play with Carolyn's is the "spill the beans" aspect, Cheryl. Her 6-year-old will get over the party but living with abuse? You never get over that. Hope it's not what is going on. :(
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You're right... my daughter has forgotten the incident, but as the Mom, I still can't get over it. I'm even more curious now as to what is really going on with them.
Hey there! I'm new to your site, and loved this post, so I decided to follow you. I have had neighbor wars myself, living in military housing it happens...a lot!

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With military housing I'm sure you have lots of stories. Most of our neighbors are perfectly nice people, but there is always one who you just wish would move away. Thanks for the follow, glad you are enjoying my blog.
One less birthday invite is one less present to buy. Ka-Ching! McDonald's lunch for me for a week!
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My parents were weird like that. Except we weren't even allowed to leave our yards. We had an unlisted phone number and were not allowed to tell friends our number. Other kids came to our yard to play, but weren't allowed in the house. Even as a child, I knew this was not normal. After I was grown I found out that both my parents were victims of abuse at the hands of family and family friends which made them hyper vigilant about protecting us. Also? My dad had had another family before he married my mom and he was hidng from child support.
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Hmm. There are a few options here. I had a friend when I was a school-kid, who was only allowed to eat with people of the same religion, that could explain your child being excluded from a party..? Or maybe they only had enough to pay for a particular number of kids (parties aren't cheap)? Or maybe the daughter got to choose who came and for some reason unknown to you she has issues with your daughter / has a close group of friends who she specifically wanted there (that sort of thing changes week to week with kids that age)? I didn't invite the next door two year old's (twins) to my sons' birthdays, because their kids have perpetually runny noses/ coughs, and I have friends who specifically only attend parties if they know there are no sickies there to infect their kids. There really are a heck of a lot of maybes there. Try not to take it personally, and don't let it effect your child's relationship with their child, they may yet grow to be really close to each other.
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There are only 5 neighbors on our cul de sac, all retired, with lots and lots of time. Sweet, bringing in our trash cans and such. But heaven forbid we park in front of their house, they'd cut our tires in a heartbeat.
That really sucks. I'd be pissed too if someone who played with my son all the time did not invite him over. If other kids from school are invited that sounds a lot less like abuse and a lot more like something else is going on. Weirdos. I guess you have no choice but to let it go since your daughter is friends with them and we have to put aside how we feel for the sake of our kids. If you have a dog, maybe send some poop over to their yard - or borrow a dog for the day... Glad you got to get out your frustration here though. The Dive Bar is the best!!
Not sure why your daughter was not invited but def sounds like some abuse over there. Also I am that parent that will let you play in the yard but come in....forget it! I have 4 kids to pick up after and do not want to have to pick up after someone else or supervise them for that matter. So maybe that's the deal with that.
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