I'm still mourning the loss of our beloved Speech Therapist/Sensory Integration therapist (a thing which apparently does not even exist at our district; we just got lucky with this particular person). She had written a combination of IEP goals that were both speech and sensory and since there's no way we can actually replace her with somebody who will do both, the new speech therapist will do the speech stuff and we'll just have to hope we can find an Occupational Therapist who is capable of SI stuff (you'd be surprised. Then again, you might have no idea what the fuck I'm even talking about). I just wanted it in the record, anyway: "write down that I said I was concerned about these sensory goals not being implemented." It's his biggest challenge and if they don't address it I don't know who will. Nobody.
I don't like that my concerns about 3rd grade were essentially reinforced by this meeting. He needs to start learning how to pretend to be normal so that the other kids don't make his life hell. How to teach him this while still letting him be himself? Um. Yeah. You can't. He doesn't give a shit what other kids think, so what is his incentive to do what these crazy grownups want? And who gets to define what "normal" is, anyway, huh? Why isn't it normal to crawl along the ground drawing roads in the mulch? Okay, because it's not, but if that's what makes him happy, and he doesn't care what the other kids think, why not just let him do it? Because you can't, is why, because that's not what 8 year old kids are supposed to be doing at recess, they're supposed to be playing with each other and having fun. So let's construct some activities that he might enjoy that we can include the other kids in. We'll make him do that for 5 minutes and then he can do an activity that he enjoys. But only if that activity isn't running back and forth against the fence at the back of the yard because that's not normal.