Yeah. Good Times.: I love my online friends

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Tuesday, January 3, 2012

I love my online friends

I have the best online friends in the world. In fact, with a few exceptions, my online friends are better friends to me than pretty much anybody I can have a conversation with over coffee. (Exceptions: Cathryn, Lizzie and Emily. I want to mention their names, even though probably none of them will read this. Hubs doesn't count since he's required by law to be my friend).

If I go more than a few days without hearing from some of my online friends, I start missing them. How can you miss somebody you've never actually met? And there are people I have met whom I haven't heard from for months, and at this point I couldn't give a single shit if I ever actually hear from them again.

There are people I know in RL who only ever talk about themselves; how they are doing, what is going on with them and never even ask me how I am. And then there are people I know online who can tell by the tone of my tweets that there's something going on, and will text me to find out what it is. Just because you've sat in the same room with a person doesn't mean they're actually your friend. And the more I think about how wonderful you guys are online, the more it fucking pisses me off how much so many of the people I know in real life fucking suck. (except for the four I mention above. Okay, Hubs totally counts. Whatever.)

So, I'd like to turn that around in my brain, please, and instead of being angry and going off on a rant, I will make this an Online Friend Appreciation Post: I'm not going to mention names here because I'll probably leave people out and I don't want to make anybody sad, but I can think of at least 5 of you who are right now thinking "I wonder if she's talking about me?" and the answer is YES. YES I'M TALKING ABOUT YOU.

By the way, people: start thinking about the Great Twitter/Blogger Meetup of Some Time in the Spring of 2012.

Seriously.

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alexandra · 690 weeks ago

Oh...I love you Jillsmo.

smooches and mwaaahs

xo
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Mom2MissK 74p · 690 weeks ago

Totally hear what you're saying about those online friends. I have a few who - if I don't see them on the blogs or on Facebook, I start to worry. It's amazing what the Internet has be come in such a relatively short time! *raises coffee cup to salute*
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Lady Estrogen · 690 weeks ago

If I had to put a number on it, I think I talk to my online friends 50 times more often than my RL friends (to which I have about 3 GOOD ones that I can actually rely on for important shit).

My other RL 'friends' only call me when they know someone who needs a logo done for free.
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pugariffic 41p · 690 weeks ago

I can't imagine how lost i'd be without my online friends. My RL friends.. the closest one is an hour away. My life kinda revolves around my kids..so things outside of my kids.. don't exist. YAY MOTHERHOOD! *snarl*

Totally know you couldn't make it through the day without me. TOTALLY!! hahaaa ;D

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Claire · 690 weeks ago

Well, online friends and support groups are the best. It's a little circle.
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AutismWonderland · 690 weeks ago

I totally get this. Sometimes I feel like I get more support from folks on line than I do from my friends in RL.

And I wonder if that would be different if I had a "typical" kid?
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blogginglily 73p · 690 weeks ago

Way to turn the negative into a positive, Jillsmo!

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Carmen · 690 weeks ago

I have my own exceptions as well, but agree 100% that my online friends are like the family I have chosen for myself and can't quit.

You're pretty special!

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thissideoftypical 57p · 690 weeks ago

SERIOUSLY

I'd say something mushy here, but that would just be embarrassing for both of us. ;)
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LLA_Princess 66p · 690 weeks ago

I LOVE YOU and not like a love song, like that stupid song that comes on the radio every 30minutes. I have to be a better friend to people in real life now because I have become a hermit because I enjoy my peeps like you so much more that "get me."

BTW: expect a text shortly :)
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@TX_Lisa · 690 weeks ago

Hey - you know what? I have been thinking about you because it's been a few days without talking! :-) How is the non-drinking thing going?

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andrea · 690 weeks ago

Besides the awesomeness of you onliine folks in general, I also don't haVE TO WORRY ABOUT BEING JUDGED FOR THE AMOUNT OF SPINACH DIP I JUST HOOVERED WHILE (NO REASON FOR THE SUDDEN SWITCH TO CAPS, OTHER THAN MY NEW KEYBOARD) CATching up, nior that anyone is distrcted by it being stuck in my teeth!
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bklynxtine 47p · 690 weeks ago

I think about this all the time. It amazes me how such strong connections can be made between two people who have never sat side by side in the same room. I like to think about what my guest list would look like if I were to get married today (or if I'd been blogging before I got married.) I think some of them would actually come! So cool.

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Kelly Hafer · 690 weeks ago

Yeah. This whole blogging thing turned into I would go so far as to say an Online Family for me. RL friends are great to go get lunch with, but, fuck, I can eat by myself, AmIRight? It's the "gettting it" thing that so many are missing. Or the fact that they don't understand last minute ancellations because OhMyFuckingGod Ted just opted to launch the mother of all meltdowns and now I have the smell of vomit still in my hair and am physically sore and strained from restraining him, and...*breathe*

Yeah. I love you guys.
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Mayor Gia · 690 weeks ago

Me, right?? Me?!?

;)
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Shirley · 690 weeks ago

Completely agree with you. My family had some pretty big challenges at the end of 2011. My "friends" and neighbors in RL were not there for me, even though I try to help other people out whenever I can. People said "Let me know if you need anything" but then they disappeared. My online friends at least offered to get drunk with me. Which, you know, is the most important thing. :D
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Kyla · 690 weeks ago

Great post! So true about RL people. Damn those real people..... they need a blogger lesson in friendships!
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Shirley · 690 weeks ago

Oh, sorry about the drinking comment. It's figurative anyway... I can pretend I'm partying but in reality, I have to help haul a 12 year old with a groin-to-foot cast to the crapper all the time so I'm really not able to be sauced, ever.
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Evin · 690 weeks ago

I totally don't count among your twitter friends but your tweets always catch my eye and make me smile. So if you disappeared I would smile less. That counts for something yes?
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Shalini · 690 weeks ago

I know what you mean--I only wish I could see my online friends on a weekly basis!
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Just Jennifer · 690 weeks ago

I totally dig you, Jill, even tho I don't think I'm one of your online besties - yet. Perhaps it's time for me to start cyber stalking you....?

I'll need your cell # if I'm gonna stalk you properly tho. ;-)
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@ByWordsMusings · 690 weeks ago

ok, now this was my comment to you yesterday or the day before ... and the comment i just wrote disappeared ...
the one that said
virtual hugs to you and maybe real life one's soon xxx
or something like that
Could i be any less techie that even my comments mess with me!
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bacher519 38p · 690 weeks ago

Are you going to BlogHer? You HAVE TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

Whenever I mention "my Twitter friends" my husband looks at me like I should be committed, and I'm alright with that.
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Kristi · 690 weeks ago

Awwww. Who's as cute as a button? This was such a sweet and very true post. I adore my online friends. They are always there when I need them. It's a unique friendship and one I treasure.

Thank you, friend, for being in my life :)
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Lizbeth · 690 weeks ago

Muwwahh! Love ya right back lady.

There are very few people IRL that get what goes on in my house with my son. All you guys do. And you don't judge, only offer help and support. And for that I am eternally grateful.
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Jen · 690 weeks ago

My twitter beeyotches and bloggin' friends are what keep me sane in an otherwise insane parenting and work situation. Who else would join me on a lengthy twitter rant about all things Jenny McCarthy? :)

BTW, come to BlogHer in August! Everyone will be in the hizz-ouse!
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Brandon · 690 weeks ago

Sometimes being an online friend has its benefits. Less awkwardness when you're tired of people. Instead of hiding in a room, in the fetal position, you simply log off.

Now, if you need me, I'll be curled up in a fetal position over in the corner. :p
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Jessica 96p · 690 weeks ago

Would love to meet in the spring and totally agree, my online friends are unbelievable, don't know what I would do without all of you.
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OKinUK · 690 weeks ago

I really like all the people I've met online.

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Eryn · 690 weeks ago

Do you ever wonder if the people we know in "real life" are sitting at home on their PCs, talking about how nobody in their town is as cool as their online friends?

I sure do.

Love you, Jill.
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Rachel · 690 weeks ago

I feel exactly the same way, Jill. I think I fear losing my Internet connection more than I fear homelessness or excruciating physical pain.

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jacqui · 690 weeks ago

I had a really good comment about online friends making songs get stuck in your head. But right as I started to type it, the song was finally gone. Now I can't remember the damn thing and my comment is totally ruined.
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Verb Vixen · 690 weeks ago

This makes my heart happy! I love you Jilly!
Where is our vacation house going to be this summer? Please be somewhere warm lol. Or are we doing BlogHer in NY? or will you come run a half marathon with me and Amy? Its followed by a wine tour event because clearly i only pick the boozy races to run.

xoxo
VV
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Dani G · 690 weeks ago

Are you talking about me? Because I think you might be talking about me. So, are you? Just tell me.
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lancecake 59p · 690 weeks ago

I know I'm not the only person who looked around their Christmas family gatherings and said " dude, this would actually be fun if my twitter and blogging buddies could be here".

I agree with every word, jill. Even the naughty ones. In the last 3 years, I've become so disenchanted with my real life friends/ acquaintances that I doubt I'll ever have a real life friend other than my wife.

The community I've discovered through the internets is invaluable. I'm glad you're part of mine, I hope you feel the same with me.

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Jennie B · 690 weeks ago

I'm lucky to have great friends IRL, but there is something about those online pals, especially since most of mine also have kids w special needs. You all, and Jill in particular, just get it. Jillsmo, I'm not the best twitter pal in the world, but I am so glad I found you!
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KarenASMom 75p · 690 weeks ago

Because of my online friends...I never drink alone! It's great to have peeps who really get it.

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littleanimation 1p · 690 weeks ago

I get this. But my IRL friends don't. Damn.
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Sarah · 690 weeks ago

I so want to go to the meetup of all time! More details, please!

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Jen · 690 weeks ago

I've frequently felt the same way! (and, coincidentally, some of those "real life friends" have fallen by the wayside, while online friends remain more or less in touch, depending).

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kablooey64 6p · 690 weeks ago

I have small circles in both places, but I love 'em both. I have enough trouble maintaining social ties to do much about expanding these circles, but those who love me back know I do my best. I just think my bloggy friends are more likely to "get" my socially-stunted self than those in the world at large.
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karen · 690 weeks ago

yes...why is the online world so GRATIFYING? IT JUST IS! IT'S SO FREAKING GRATIFYING! LET'S ALL GO GET VIRTUAL MANICURES NOW! I'VE NEVER HAD ONE IN REAL LIFE EITHER!
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@ThaDevineMsB · 690 weeks ago

This is such a true post and I feel the same 100%. Thanks for writing this =)

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Sarcasm Goddess · 690 weeks ago

Yes, yes, and yes to EVERYTHING! Some of my real life "friends" suck. They know what's going on in my life, good things, bad things, but do they ever ask, care, comment? No! And the whole knowing something is wrong by the tone of your tweets! YES!!!! My online friends rock my sausage.
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Cactusinyrpants 59p · 690 weeks ago

I'm one!! I'm an online friend! ME!! And you are mine. But you are the best one of all. <3

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Jenn@Fox in the City · 689 weeks ago

Hey you, have I mentioned it before that you totall rock?! If not, you do!

So, what is this about a bloggy meet-up?! Did I miss a tweet while I was on the #roadtripfromhell ?
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