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Sunday, October 23, 2011

The Dive Bar Welcomes: An Amazing Mom Warrior

Oooh, 2 Dive Bar posts in one weekend? Fancy.



Recently my family has been blindsided by meddling, uneducated ignorance. When you are parenting a child with Autism, life is rough at time, and there are numerous blessings to be found everywhere, but that blog I don’t need to make anonymous, this is for me and the mommies who have been there.

C.P.S. (Child Protective Services) - If you just shuddered, you get it. You do your best every day to fight for your children, to be the best you can be and you think you will never have them knock on your door. You know you love your children, and they have food, clothes, warm beds, so much more than many children have. But when your son can’t defend himself or his family, when uneducated people overhear drama from your day and spin it into an attack, the world turns on its axis.

I have no need to rehash details, I do have something to say to the asshat who chose to stoop to such low levels as calling C.P.S. and not being an ADULT and just venting their frustrations to my husband, whom they were upset with over work drama. GROW A SET OF BALLS. It does not take a big person to make a phone call and make up lies about someone you have NEVER even met. I am a fucking amazing mom. I love my children with every fiber of my being, and I will go to the ends of the Earth for them.

My family has so many hoops to jump through to help our son function daily in a world that does not understand him, your meddling is unsolicited to say the least. If you were so concerned genuinely about my family, how about you ask us what you can do to be of help to us.

Oh wait, you don’t actually give a fuck, you just want to hurt my husband because you are inadequate in your own life?

Great job, you have hurt my husband, bravo. Here is the thing though, he is aching for his family. Do you know the horrible effect stress has on a family living with Autism? You don’t? Then what fucking authority do you have to pull things from your ass for personal gain? How are you feeling about yourself now? Pretty cool huh? You caused a young child with Autism to spin into regression. In case you didn’t know (and I am guessing you didn’t) regression means that with some assholes false report to CPS, a young boy can lose MONTHS of very hard earned progress. Congrats again to you. Should we get you a Bozo button? (BTW, When you file a false claim about someone you don’t know and fake concern about a child, it helps to know the correct NAME of said child.)

Here is the kicker. To your efforts at destroying my family, you fail. We will become stronger, better and wiser from all of this. I am going to take your pile of shit and turn it into fertilizer, going to use it to make my family grow stronger. Sorry for your luck, the loser here is you and you alone. You may have caused so much pain and heartache for us, but we won’t let some insignificant, ignorant person knock us down. We will teach our kids to never, ever be the kind of person you are. A Bully.

CPS is closing the case, we are moving forward. I hope you enjoy your lonely existence, as I foresee a long, lonely life for someone of your moral “standards.” In case you are wondering, I not only wept for my family, I cried for the children in this world who are in need of intervention and people just look the other way. Statistics show that for every ONE child that is removed from an abusive home, SEVENTEEN are removed from non-abusive homes with loving, caring, & capable families. Who knows how many children need help, yet vindictive asshats like you waste the time of already overworked social workers. Bravo.

In closing, Fuck You.

- An AMAZING Mom Warrior



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OH MY GOD!!! That is so incredibly horrible. A big fat fuck you to that guy! I have feared that happening to us when have pissed off people. People are just vindictive idiots. He will get his- whether you believe in God, or karma or things in the universe have a way of balancing out he will get his 10 fold!
I am so sorry the most for your child though. My heart aches for your family. But you are right you will get stronger. We are all here to support you in any way we can.
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I had something similar happen. Two weeks of mind-altering stress and self-doubt...all for nothing.

I think the reporter should have to spend a week or two shadowing the parent and child - then they'd see what it's REALLY like.
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Dear Amazing Mom Warrior... I'd like to be so angry with you but reading this I am gut-shocked horrified. How about calling and asking to help first, see the situation a little closer before passing judgment?? Sure sounds like they didn't have enough information. Prayers going up for your family this morning that somehow, somehow good things come out of this, that there is more help for you, that people start to get it.

I am sorry to read this. I do understand a little.
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Oh my god. I am SO sorry that people are sometimes assholes and that you had to go through that. ((hugs))
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Intergalactic · 701 weeks ago

I've been in your shoes (even used Dive Bar at the time myself) I'm so sorry anyone has to go through this. My kids don't trust adults anymore. I still have nightmares a few times a week. It gets better every day, but I want it all better right now. (patience is not my strong suit)
On a practical note, get hard copies of everything in your closed case file. If need be, get legal rep to accomplish this. I learned the hard way that a closed accusation can be open again if a new call is made.
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Jennifer L Austin · 701 weeks ago

(((HUG)))
Fucking unbelievable. I live in fear of this myself, from spiteful assholes I have tried to cut from my life, who still feel the need to but their noses in. Seriously, stories like these is what makes me want to live as a hermit somewhere. I really hope Karma comes back around to this idiot!
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Karyn Gallagher · 701 weeks ago

My mom has always said, "Manage your family the way you see fit." Too bad people are idiots. I don't have a child with Aspberger's, but I have a boy with ADHD, that while he was young raised a lot of eyebrows as to how we parented him. No one gets it unless you own one.
Those who are gravely insecure do crappy ass things don't they?
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Hugs! I heard about this happening! I'm so sorry. Our blogs should be a safe haven--where we can write about the frustrations and anger we deal with. We do that so others can relate and know they're not alone. It shouldn't be cause for CPS to be called in. That's just ludicrous!

I'm glad they swiftly closed the case! I hope they charge the accuser for their time--and more!
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I am usually fairly well laid-back, but the kind of person who calls CPS over bullshit makes me want to put on a cape and kick their ass all over the major networks. Once the cameras go off, the real ass-kicking begins.
I am so sorry that you had to deal with this.
I'm sorry to hear that you went through that ordeal. I deal with many children daily and I can tell you that the decision to call CPS should never, ever, be that easy for someone. Clearly he is a nasty, bitter, unhappy person who thinks that the only way he can achieve anything in the world is to stand on the backs of other peoples troubles. He is an asshole and there is a special place in hell for people who engage in that type of bull shit.
Best wishes to you and your family. You sound like an amazing mother.
I am a CPS worker and I have to say that at LEAST 50% of our "reports" come from someone who is doing it solely out of spite. Usually its an ex husband/boyfriend/wife/girlfriend and usually there is some custody thing involved. Sometimes though, its just people trying to get at other people by using their children. They have NO clue how disruptive this is to those families, and even then, sometimes they ENJOY that they've caused an innocent family to suffer. It makes me ILL every single day.
Hang in there...CPS doesn't want to take your kids any more than you want them removed. Most of us HATE removing, and do everything we can to provide stabilization services (if even warranted) before ever considering removal. That guy is a total asshat though...it will come back to him.
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But there seems to be no recourse for the offended parents in cases like this. There doesn't seem to be any way that you can then sue the people who use CPS to cause trouble for others. Is there any way that, as the parents, they could file a complaint or grievence on the people who called in the false alarm. Tying up government service workers and causing undue and unwarrented pain and suffering?
If you call in a bogus 911 call, you can be charged. Why can't you charge these people in the same way?
I totally agree...where we are...there is no recourse, punishment, anything. We have a lot of "repeat callers" and we still have to investigate their claims if their report meets criteria. Each claim is "staffed" with our team and then its validity is determined. I hate to make it about money, but most localities do not want to take kids because it costs a fortune to put them into foster care. Of course they'll do it if a child is really in danger, but more often then not, the reports are exaggerated, and the family MAY need prevention services at most.
I'm sorry for anyone who has had a false claim against them. I guess you could sue for defamation...but that will cost a lot of money in the end. I'm kind of a bull by the horns kind of girl, and I'm pretty sure I'd confront the reporter, but thats not for everyone.
Wow people just have way too much time on their hands who the fuck does shit like this.....unbelievable...I am so sorry you have to go through something like this....Keep you chin up and screw them
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Mom Warrior · 701 weeks ago

Thank you all for your comments! I helped me to vent.
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MangoChutney · 701 weeks ago

It Is very sad that people have to go as far as calling the authorities on a person without knowing a situation. That's why so many kids are in the system and displaced or mistreated because of that.
Unbelievable!!! I am reminded why I need to stick with people who just seem to get it.
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